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Jason Momoa may have burst into the collective consciousness playing a ruthless, shirt-hating warrior on HBO's Game of Thrones, but his real life story is much more interesting and complicated...
Unlike his iconic character Khal Drogo, Momoa is a fully domesticated family man, dedicated to his wife and their children, with no taming necessary.
And though his lack of availability might have crushed a few Game of Thrones fans, the surprising details of Momoa's love story are so awe-inspiring, the disappointment proves fleeting.
Momoa, who recently celebrated his 39th birthday, has actually been happily married since 2005.
And their love story, while under the radar for years, is epic.
But exactly who is Momoa's wife?
Most fans are stunned to learn that she's super famous, super hot, and has been on the Hollywood scene a lot longer than her Aquaman husband.
In fact, her identity is one of the best kept secrets in all of Hollywood...
Although Lisa Bonet was frequently referred to as his wife before they actually got married, the couple officially tied the knot last October, quietly swapping vows at the Topanga, California home they share with their daughter and son.
But these two go way back. In fact, their romance began before they even met in person.
"Ever since I was 8 years old and I saw her on TV, I was like, 'Mommy, I want that one," Momoa said.
On The Late Late Show last year, the iconic Game of Thrones actor revealed that his crush on Bonet began when she was on The Cosby Show.
"I'm like, 'I'm going to stalk you for the rest of my life and I'm going to get you.' I am a full-fledged stalker," he said. "I didn't tell her that until we had two babies—otherwise, I'd be creepy and weird. I've always wanted to meet her. She was a queen, always."
When Jason was about 26 and just beginning his four-season run on Stargate: Atlantis, fate brought them together one night at a jazz club in Los Angeles.
"We just happened to be at the right place, right time, mutual friends," Momoa said.
And although they had the same hairstyle in common, the pair had major chemistry from the very beginning.
"I had huge dreadlocks, she had dreadlocks. I literally turned around, I was with my best friend, and I see her. She goes, you know, 'I'm Lisa.' I was like, I turned around to my friend and was like, teen girl shriek of excitement. I had fireworks going off inside me, man!"
But, at the time, Jason didn't own a car.
"I convinced her to take me home, 'cause I was living in a hotel," he said.
But first they stopped at the 101 Coffee Shop in Hollywood, where Bonet ordered Momoa's favorite beer: a Guinness.
"That was it," he said. "We had Guinness and grits and, you know, the rest is history."
Of course, Bonet had a little history herself prior to arriving in Momoa's life...
Bonet met her first husband, rocker Lenny Kravitz, at a concert in 1986 when she was 19. They eloped to Las Vegas in 1987 and their daughter, Zoë, was born a year later.
"One day, I turned around and I looked at him and I knew, that was my man," Bonet said on The Arsenio Hall Show way back in 1989.
"Zoë's mom and I were incredibly and deeply in love. It was a magical relationship and magical time in my life," Kravitz told Oprah Winfrey in 2013. "She really helped to bring out the best in me and inspire me. We were very young and it was wonderful and we had Zoë. I see now what it was all about. It was really all about bringing this beautiful child to the planet and also sharing the love that we had."
It's great they both have a mature perspective now, but at the time, there was some serious drama and heartbreak.
"We were too young, we were babies," Kravitz said. "Our marriage was not based on reality."
Bonet's unraveling marriage, fueled by Kravitz's rock-star ways, coincided with her leaving The Cosby Show in 1991. Bonet's character, Denise, and her husband went abroad, leaving their daughter Olivia with grandparents Cliff and Claire in New York.
Although the duo didn't finalize their divorce until 1993, a New York Times review of Kravitz's album Mama Said in 1991 mentioned that he "recently broke up with his wife."
The track "It Ain't Over Till It's Over," the artist's first top 10 hit, was one of many songs on the album inspired by Bonet.
But that relationship, and its aftermath, was just beginning to wreck havoc on the hearts and minds of both Bonet and Kravitz...
After their tumultuous split, Bonet changed her name to Lilakoi Moon.
"My heart was blown open from just loving someone so much," Bonet said to Vibe in 1999. "It also deepened my desire to heal myself—you know, not wanting to pass on the less-than-positive 'family heirlooms' that get passed down. I can honestly say it accelerated my growth and my desire to be here and to participate in a loving, conscious way on this planet."
At the time of the interview, Bonet had recently filmed small roles in the movies Enemy of the State and High Fidelity. But she didn't sound concerned about becoming less famous than she had been in the 1980s.
"My desire to participate in the business is not to make more crap, so I'm really content," she said. "I have a desire to create more film, more beauty, more art, more love, but I don't feel desperate. I mean, for me it's not about creating or building a career anymore, you know?"
Talking to Porter Magazine in 2018, Bonet again referred to her breakup emotions as an undesirable heirloom. She recalled going through "a very accelerated time, spiritually and intellectually," because she didn't want to place the "fresh wound of a divorce" on her daughter.
When she was 11, Zoë went to live with her dad in Miami full time, which was fodder for the tabloids. Zoe described the situation to Complex years later, saying her mother wanted "to give an opportunity to be a normal kid."
With their little girl now a grown-up actress and singer who stars in HBO's critically acclaimed Big Little Lies, Bonet and Kravitz have long since made amends.
In fact, they're a lot closer than you might imagine nowadays...
"Zoë's mom and I now are best friends," Kravitz told Oprah. "It's interesting because that's how the relationship started. But it makes you feel really good when you can do that. When we're all together now—her man, her kids, Zoë, me—we're all together and we're one big, happy family. It's beautiful and it just shows you what can be done."
Her man, Jason Momoa, is reportedly very close with his stepdaughter Zoë. He was recently all aglow with Instagram-pride over her role in the upcoming Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald, telling E! News at Comic-Con that she was "amazing."
"My dad and my stepdad get along really well, and my dad loves and is close with my little brother and sister. It's really beautiful," Zoë told Ocean Drive.
"It's full-on family love," Bonet said, echoing Zoë's sentiment.
While he was doing press at Comic-Con, Momoa sported a massive turquoise necklace, a real statement piece that he said was a wedding present from Bonet.
"I can't say it was full-on from the moment we saw each other, but we have been together from the day that we met," Bonet told Porter. "In that moment, love came and it came big, and he did not run as I think a lot of men do. He basically picked me up and threw me over his shoulder, caveman style!"
And the two have definitely shared some interesting times together on set, and off...
In 2008, Bonet returned to television in the short-lived Life on Mars, and she credited her husband with helping her prepare emotionally to act again.
"To have my face reinstated in minds and homes once a week was an intense decision," she told People. "I'm a shy person. I don't know if it's in my DNA to share with the world... Having a mate has given me that feeling of safety. Jason is the love of my life. He's everything I hoped would come."
Like Kravitz, Momoa wasn't a big star when Bonet first met him.
"What's cool about Jason is that he's an alpha male who stands for love and family," Bonet said. "And to circle back to my own wounds, having an absent father, then to be fully met by a man of that stature, is really incredible. Jason embodies a rare form of masculinity in this day and age—he's a leader; he's generous. Just in terms of charisma, physique, the right use of power, responsibility, work ethic, you can go down the line."
That work ethic helped take Momoa from Baywatch and Stargate: Atlantis to become one of the most iconic Game of Throne characters, despite only surviving for two seasons.
Speaking with Conan O'Brien about playing the domineering Khal Drogo, Momoa said, "I tried it on my wife, it didn't work that way."
He did get to call the shots, however, on the set of his 2014 film Road to Paloma, a revenge drama he wrote, directed and starred in. The actor also shared a romantic scene with his wife, who was appearing in her first movie in almost ten years.
"It was a very hard scene to shoot. She didn't think so, but it was," Momoa told Collider in 2014. "It was like trying to capture the first time we met, and yet have it be three times that. It was all the things we weren't saying, and we had to capture it in the perfect light. I didn't want to reshoot it. It's hard to get those real, true, beautiful moments."
"That was a lot of years of our life that went into that film," Bonet said at Sundance in 2014.
" required me to be very shy—she makes me shy and... she's the only one that can really do that," Momoa told E! News. "I just don't want to suck in front of my wife. I don't want to be bad. I want her to like me and love me and continue to do that."
But that wasn't the only time the pair have collaborated...
That collaboration then led to them both starring in the Sundance series The Red Road.
Momoa had the series lined up, but after the husband and wife duo submitted Road to Paloma to the Sundance Film Festival, the show's executive producer approached Bonet to play a lawyer on the show.
"We looked at it and it was completely opposite of what we had just played," Momoa said. "We never thought we'd work together again. It wasn't like I said, 'I'm only doing this with my wife.' But, it was great because it's the opposite of what we played in the movie. And she really dug it and wanted to do it. It's definitely fun, working across from your partner."
Pressed further, he added, "No, it's an honor working with my wife. In this business, we have to travel so far away from our families. We have two children, so if we can work together, that's awesome. Before I met her, it was a dream to work with her."
Bonet told Zap2It, "The network was like, 'We don't normally like husbands and wives working together,' but they really enjoyed our chemistry, so it was super flattering, too."
Since then, Bonet has appeared on Girls and Ray Donovan, and Momoa starred in the Netflix series Frontier and joined the DC Universe.
He's now headlining his own superhero movie, Aquaman, which is due out this December. And while Bonet has stayed eerily similar-looking to her 19-year-old Cosby Show character Denise, Momoa has added what looks like a ton of extra muscle to his already chiseled frame.
His now 50-inch chest and 19-inch biceps took shape thanks to intense weight lifting, but the man reportedly still enjoys his pints of Guinness.
Again recalling that magical moment when Bonet ordered his favorite beer, he gushed to Men's Health this year, "I thought, 'Oh my God, I can't believe I'm with a woman who ordered a Guinness. I love her.' When I got to know her, she was the woman of my dreams."
He also remarked, when the subject of too many beers came up, that his family and wife come first. And he wasn't joking, either...
Their daughter Lola, 11, was born in July of 2007 and their son, Nakoa-Wolf, followed in December of 2008. Bonet says that Momoa has suggested they relocate to his native Hawaii or somewhere even further away, but she told Porter Magazine that she's "not quite ready to disappear completely!"
"When I'm by myself, I'm really cool and nice to everyone, but then the whole paparazzi thing? If you see me with my kids, I change," Momoa told Esquire last year. "I just want them not to deal with that. I'm just Papa to them. We don't watch TV. We haven't even seen Star Wars yet."
When he shot Aquaman in Australia for six months, the whole family went with him.
While still based in Los Angeles, Momoa makes sure the kids get plenty of outdoor time. This summer they've been rock climbing, camping, fishing, paddle-boarding and skateboarding.
And though promoting Aquaman takes up quite a bit of Momoa's time, he and Bonet make sure they "schedule space" for each other. In April, they were in San Francisco for a Cartier-hosted party with the likes of Jeremy Renner, Idris Elba, Jake Gyllenhaal, Aaron Paul and Bonet's Ray Donovan co-star Liev Schreiber.
Asked at the Justice League premiere in November if they felt like newlyweds, the recently married Momoa grew mock-deadly serious.
"Oh, yeah. If I weren't on camera right now, I would tell you," he said, cocking an eyebrow. "But oh yeah. Seriously. Big time."
It's always a good idea to make sure your wife has a smile on her face.
Bonet said that, while she had already thought of him as her husband, she did feel differently now that she was officially married.